Safety & disclaimer

Arrangements made on Knockr involve large amounts of money, a child, and decades of consequences. Both sides should slow down. The riskier part of this isn't conception — it's everything that comes after.

For women

• Make him real. Verify the donor is who he says he is and that the wealth he's representing actually exists. Public records, employment, recent tax filings, a real lawyer on his side. Money that looks "off-platform liquid" can disappear after the first attempt.
• Get the money first, in writing. Whatever the agreed-on structure — lump sum, installments, trust for the child — have a lawyer draw the documents and have escrow or trust set up before conception, not after. Once you're pregnant your leverage drops to zero.
• Understand what you're signing. A contract that gives the donor zero parental rights also gives him zero ongoing obligation. Different states/countries vary wildly. Get a family lawyer in your jurisdiction.
• Vet his fertility & health honestly. Recent semen analysis, family medical history, STI panel if you're doing NI.
• Personal safety first. Video call before meeting. First meeting in public. Tell someone where you are. Trust your gut — anyone pressuring or rushing you is the wrong donor.

For donors

• Verify she's who she says she is. Reverse-image search the photos. Check the social link. Talk to her on video. Sob-story fundraising scams are the predictable abuse of a platform like this — assume some profiles are not real until proven otherwise.
• Don't send money outside a structured agreement. If anyone — including someone you've grown to trust — asks for funds before a lawyer-drafted contract is in place, that's the moment to stop.
• Understand your legal exposure. In several US states and countries, a known donor who has any contact with the child can be held legally responsible as the father — even with a signed donor agreement. A child support order from a court can override what you and the mother agreed to in private. Talk to a family lawyer in her jurisdiction, not just yours.
• Understand the time horizon. Whatever you commit to, you are committing to for the life of a child. Make sure the structure is one you can sustain.

Legal terrain

• Paternity, child support, and parental-rights law varies wildly by state and country. A "donor agreement" that's airtight in one place is unenforceable in another.
• Commercial surrogacy and "payment for pregnancy" are regulated or banned in many jurisdictions. Framing the funds as ongoing support for the child — through a trust, a 529, or court-supervised arrangements — is generally cleaner than framing them as payment for the donor's involvement.
• If a third-party clinic is involved (IVF, AI), the clinic's own rules around known-donor arrangements may add further constraints.
• If you're serious about any of this, talk to a family lawyer before — not after — conception.

Scams and bad actors

• Knockr never asks for, holds, or moves money. If anyone claims to be acting on Knockr's behalf and asks you to send funds, they are lying.
• Donors should be skeptical of urgent timelines, sob stories, requests for funds before contracts, and anyone unwilling to meet on video.
• Women should be skeptical of donors who flash wealth they won't verify, who push for natural insemination after agreeing to AI, or who try to "skip the lawyers — we trust each other."
• Report bad actors so we can remove them.

The disclaimer part

Knockr is a listing service. We are not lawyers, doctors, fertility counselors, financial advisors, escrow agents, or a sperm bank. Profiles are not verified or endorsed. By using this site you accept all the risk of any arrangement you enter into with another user. See the terms for the full version.